“The best way to bottle up anger is to turn men into women. After years of consensus seeking, reaching out, coming together, building bridges, linking arms and tying yellow ribbons, the feminisation of America is complete. American men have been turned into their own secret police, under orders to kick down their own doors in the middle of the night and arrest themselves for insensitivity.“
– Florence King
Stop Being Your Children’s Friend and Be a Parent
(Stating the Obvious, While Not Blaming the Usual Suspects)
I watched a YouTube video of a husband hiding out in his garage, and his wife had found him and was ragging him out for being there so much, as well as a host of issues that most of us have heard in one form or another. It did not dawn on her, or she did not care, that he was hiding out to escape her incessant pestering. She of course wanted communication, but no doubt the kind of communication based on her feelings and not logic, where even if he expressed his emotions they would not be given equal weight as her own. Some men may still have dens to relax in, as many go to the bar – which has its own problems – where they might have some peace, but it got me thinking that space reflects leadership in a way.
An interesting fact these days is that foreign immigrant children are now doing better than homegrown children in many Western nations, which is a complete reversal from earlier periods in our histories. Surely this must push more parents toward home-schooling. Dr. Leonard Sax has written at least three books on the issue of parental efforts to bring up children better in the last decades. Mr. Sax, who was born of a Jewish mother and has earned the educational credentials to be a Doctor of Psychology, is still once again a hit-and-miss proposition. Like Jordan Peterson, it seems shrinks have replaced priests and grandparents as the go-to source for knowledge. Despite Sax’s books referencing 400 studies and several decades having passed, he and his crew of shrinks have not stemmed the tide in my lifetime. What could possibly be the reason?
Sax suggests, and I agree, that parents should not let their children take their smartphones to bed. This good advice was settled by me years before hearing any such shrink advise it, as one day when I learned my wife had gotten my son a DS Game Player in his primary school years – which I had told her not to do – they both promptly got to see my response. I told my son the first Saturday that came up that he could play the computer games until 4:00 in the afternoon, but then he would have to study homework until dinner, and later study after dinner, if he wanted to continue to have and use the DS Game Player. At 4:00 he gave a major temper tantrum that made me quietly dispose of the device for good – though I would tell him he could get it back if he was to match his responsibilities, which he never did until he was a young adult. Much later I gave him a laptop in high school that could be used only on the kitchen table, so that my wife and I could look over his shoulder as we passed by, to make sure it was homework and not any other things most parents fear. His free-time communication was done the same way, in the same location, with homework done first. Funny enough he got the best marks in his computer classes, as laptops demand more skills than the small forms of devices that had arrived on the scene at that time. So the lie of children falling behind with limited computer use did not take with us.
When he got into university with great marks, I allowed him his first free access to role-playing computer games at home – as the university was nearby and he was still living with us – thinking this dealing with the devil would have to be confronted eventually. Sure enough, during the Covid crisis, the computer game use caught up with him, and he then faced ending his use of games for some time, which he admitted and then did on his own. He now accepts the addictive nature of games as real, and seems even more militant that his own children will be controlled even more strictly with such devices. His first smartphone arrived when he got a job, and his father has never used one – even travelling all around Europe in 2025 and getting flak from those who no longer knew how to use paper forms in business. Again, I practise what I preach.
Mr. Sax dismisses the idea that women generally prefer the easy or nice-cop role in parenting, and argues that fathers are in fact the easy and nice cops, with women being the real tough cops. What exactly is a divorced father living at a distance – with limited time as a rule enforcer, wanting to be liked first – bound to enforce separately without the wife’s approval? Or in the simp-ish father role we find inside the home today that says “happy wife, happy life,” what is bound to be enforced without the Mrs. OK? I think Mr. Sax is either blind or corrupt.
My own wife talked a tough game about rules, but in my absence did not enforce them anywhere near her long list implied, and when I was present nagged me endlessly to enforce her will on my son. Tough cop by proxy, I think. As the saying goes, women prefer to be liked, and men prefer to be respected – and this holds true with being the tough cop.
Which gender is tougher and knows how to toughen someone up? As a former middle-linebacker captain on defence on the gridiron, a former rugby lock, former heavyweight freestyle wrestling champion, and former naval cadet, one can hear today that all these things mean nothing compared somehow with Mr. Sax’s need to flatter his female readers and sell books to liberals.
Sax sees children filling the vacuum of absent parental, religious, and older cultural opinions with the opinions of other children and media-pushed ideas. Would that media be the Hollywood studios? In the past, parents and respected persons would talk behind closed doors and present a united front, so that children and outsiders could not use differences between the couple to their advantage – and also allow both parents to play both the nice and tough cop as a team. My wife, despite being tough on paper, would not take this role often, and when she did she often failed to state things in a way that meant business, or was highly emotional about smaller issues I had not agreed to enforce, as they lacked importance to me.
Feminism, and gossiping about your husband’s perceived flaws, means insecure mothers having to stand their ground with strong fathers in front of the children regardless of the ramifications. There are countless examples in media of men and husbands being embarrassed as women and wives insult, demean, and undermine fathers in public. Disney sitcoms are well known for making disrespect cool, but in female-headed households the need for talking about feelings means disrespect becomes part of free expression – combined with no spanking, which leads to no ramifications for bad behaviour and casual vulgar words. The stories I have heard of trying to take smartphones away to enforce rules are not a way to end drama but to escalate it tenfold. It is best to never have this situation to begin with, but for the fearful who must know where their children are at all times, the smartphone companies have gotten their foot in the door for future destruction. I live in a very safe country and so never had that problem. In fact children have and had a much simpler device that if they click it a siren goes off making anyone nearby turn to see what is up. For those with fears about kidnapping, I would suggest that as a better replacement, since any kidnapper is going to throw the smartphone away immediately.
Walking to School With Dad
I always took my son to daycare in the mornings and went to work later, stopping at a park to do some exercise to wake him up, and if I picked him up afterwards gave him an outlet to burn off steam at the park. I always asked the daycare workers how my son was, and would read between the lines to gauge if he had been bad, and what he might have done. So when we returned to the park on the way home I would make him do some exercises for every infraction I had heard of that I felt he needed to unlearn. Short timeouts and exercises seem very long to boys in child time, and so I made my points with almost no scolding and lecturing. This helped support the staff, but after the drill I would let him run free to do as he wished with other boys in real play – unless he had been really bad, in which case it was straight home after running a lot. These drills were running backwards, side steps, crisscrosses, and the like.
We also had a Border Collie, and if you know the breed you know they are as smart as a whip. At his third year of daycare I gave my son the lead for the dog and told him to walk her to and from daycare by himself. I would walk behind and observe. I also told him that if the dog were hit by a car it would be his mistake and not the dog’s, so as to give him responsibility early and focus his efforts. Boys want to be leaders but seldom think this means responsibility. I had learned this from my grandfather in other ways.
Now please understand our Collie was wise to going for a walk and would almost sit down by herself at every corner and street crossing, and never dragged us anywhere. I usually had no lead on her and she would walk on my left side everywhere until there was free space and then I would tell her to “go,” and she would do as she wanted. I would leave her outside shopping spots with no tie-up and tell her to wait, and she would be there waiting when we came out. So the dog was not going to ruin this effort with my son. Still, my son was unaware of how well the dog behaved, as he thought all dogs were so well behaved. My son walked slowly and extremely carefully with the dog on lead, and when he came to any intersection he told her to sit, looked both ways, and then crossed each time. Of course this became habit for himself, which was the goal, but was done with him having power in the training.
This lesson was not learned by his best friend at the time, whose mother was always scolding him not to do this and that until he tuned her out altogether, as the boy had learned his mother was always telling him everything was dangerous or bad, and so to listen to her meant he could have no outlets. This was almost the rule for all mothers at the playground, aside from those that had given up and were self-absorbed with their smartphones. So his friend would run madly down sidewalks and not stop at intersections unless held by his mother, who got tired of doing so and away he went.
Now when my son heard dad say the words “be careful,” “look out,” or “that’s dangerous,” he would almost freeze and look around and focus on what I was pointing out. My words had power because I had not over-used them, especially in the area of dangers. Added to that, he knows dad is hardly scared of anything, so if I think it is dangerous then he had better listen.
Another example was when my son was very young and would not sleep at convenient times. My wife was reactive, as she still is to this day even with the cat, and would let the child sleep when he wanted and wake when she did not like. I told her another method but was ignored because of her pride. So I acted on it and went to work. It is not too hard to understand, but harder to enact. I took note of the sleeping patterns and worked out the main one – waking up at 3:00 to 3:30 am, which then involved a milk bottle and burp to get him back to sleep. I moved to keep him up a little longer after each of his usual nap times. You should be happy with 10 to 15 minutes each spot in the cycle. I would use toys he enjoyed and get him excited in harmless ways. This went on for a week or two, as each prolonging of 10 to 15 minutes here and there moved the next nap time forward naturally, and eventually it was him falling asleep at midnight and waking up at 5:00 am, which was perfect for my wife as she needed to get up then to get ready for work. Mind you, my wife still does not admit it works, argues at the mere mention of the example of me having some skills in the area, as women have all the answers just by being women.
Women lead by good and bad emotional tools, and when those fail most resort to being tyrants – “do as I say just because” – and as they age they get tired faster and get tyrannical sooner. Women who have children younger recover faster in a host of ways and have the energy to deal with children much more easily, and that is why the Kleptocracy delays this so as to cause depopulation in yet another way. Such young mothers live longer too. This points to the results of elderly, tired female leadership leading to a huge increase in anxiety in children, which of course has led to more shrinks and counsellors at schools, and the use of legal drugs of all kinds that the schools profit from. Leonard Sax mentions 400 studies in his books pointing to these conclusions, while not mentioning the deracination that has happened since the 1960s until today – when priests took confessions for free and gave advice better than shrinks, or when elder family members not in old-age homes gave experienced input to their loved ones. I am not talking of the Hippie Generation whose slogans were “Turn On, Tune In and Bug Out” and “Never Trust Anyone Over 30.” It is funny how this generation rebelled against the Greatest Generation and the 1950s generation, and then wanted their own children to follow them the way they never followed their parents. Hypocrites.
Schools with uniforms, for example, end status comparisons and extra competition between children, as poor children would get mocked less by richer kids, while cleanliness – or the lack thereof – would allow peer pressure to make boys clean up so as not to be mocked, allowing parents to focus on other things.
Of course there is such talk of character building with Sax, centred on teaching humility, which he describes as taking an interest in other people as much as in oneself. If only adults did so as well, and were not superficial like salesmen can be in such small talk.
The fact that Silicon Valley bigwigs send their own young children to schools that do not allow computers at all, like Steve Jobs did, does ring alarm bells, does it not? Thus confirming my own efforts on this score many years later. Does selling such distracting devices to the poorer and middle classes seem to be taking an interest in other people… Mr. Sax?
In addition, contact sports have had their popularity replaced by non-contact or lesser-contact sports, surely to make children more touchy and skittish. This will ensure males that are more thin-skinned – dare I say like wives who are renowned for tone policing due to harsh words and truth. I remember the very day that the extroverted, talkative boys who always talked away with the girls better than most of the guys joined the North American football team and were out of their depth, as they were not up for contact at all, and were always talking away every knock-down and injury. They fell from top to bottom in respect, as the lads just gave them new nicknames that summed up their endless whining. When your body hurts in many places and you make a bone-shaking hit and end up at the bottom of a pile with your face in icy, watery mud, your sense of being sensitive changes just a tad.
Made-up example: “I am sorry my daughter, you are missing a hairband that matches your outfit, but it does not demand the house come to a standstill, and if you do not curb your drama queen behaviour you will not go to the prom at the end of the year – no matter what your mother says,” says the calm dad reading a book and giving that look of “if I need to get up to deal with this you will regret it.” Your wife then looks at your daughter and says, “He means it.” Which promptly leads to the daughter huffing and puffing as she goes upstairs to look for her hairband in new locations and check to see if she lent it to her new bestest friend, or her former bestest friend from last week. Your son just smiles and laughs, and your wife shortly – out of earshot – also giggles at her daughter’s behaviour. This is a house under a patriarch, and will then spend time on real issues where the boy is not neglected.
An Orthodox Christian Father’s Way
(Stop the Sapping of Your Castle)
Within the family we must have flexible tactics, despite having clear Christian goals. When I met my wife and decided to live in a foreign country different from my own, it became clear that I would not be able to earn more in salary than she could in her home country, due to a concrete ceiling of sorts – as opposed to a glass ceiling. Now there has been much of the same growing situation in the West as DEI selection has made women preferred in many public sector jobs, and in many to most multinational private sector jobs as well, though we are hearing AI is going to decimate the job market as a whole. My job has taken me to many of these globalist companies, and I saw firsthand their leading the way with the skittles and woke agenda.
Firstly, I have applied what I am preaching here too, so by working much more on my personal finances – defensive investing – instead of offensively on salary, I was able to solve one problem men face. How I made my savings work for me has allowed me to surpass my wife’s advantages in the salary area, to the point that I now have more wealth than her by leaps and bounds. This end role allowed me to lead not just in a patriarchal role by the views of the Church, but also in warranting the position in the wrongly placed issue of most concern these days – that being wealth. The deliberate pushing out of males from university, job placement, and social status should not be regarded as grassroots, or bottom-up. It is clearly astroturfed – or top-down.
I had watched both my parents’ good use of saving money to see the right things to do, and also those who were terrible with savings as examples of what not to do. I was able to separate how they succeeded from how I could succeed, for a one-trick pony is not the same for each economic period. We all have such examples in our lives, but none of us should make these decisions based on the MSM. Mind you, from the time of the Industrial Revolution those in the Anglo-American deep state have been at war with the working class to not give them a living wage. They have encouraged distractions so that we might forget about a living wage, including the use of sex of all kinds, gambling, drugs both legal and illegal, sports, and so on. A wage that allows for a home, food, pension, health, and education for the children has been eroded consistently. Germany under Bismarck had given a living wage to Germans, and so the British elite had to choose between beating the Germans in business or getting fat from usury. They chose to be like Jews and use usury. Free trade was the false slogan, due to the fact that all the biggest economies of the world started by protecting their home markets, to then have top-rate business systems which could readily do battle with other countries’ corrupt practices. New countries entering into world business cannot get up and running under free trade when there is competition that can use competitive pricing – selling at a loss to destroy new competition – among many other corrupt practices that stop fair trade from being free trade. England was the king of this kind of hypocrisy. When America joined the British elite prior to WWI, the powers using free trade to kill fair trade have grown ever since. Just look at Russia after it was hit with unending sanctions, and how it developed its own industries – when free trade is ever restored it will be able to compete. China was built by following the Japanese model, which also knew you must close your market first to build up industry to compete, and developed many independent small banks to finance small businesses all over the country. In China’s case the West assisted them by gutting its own industry and shoving its population into poverty and service jobs that are now being removed with AI. Oh, to the fools who blindly trust governments instead of God.
If a man stubbornly digs in his heels and chooses to get a job with a higher salary than his wife in these distorted times, he may give up the time that is key to his sons – and to a lesser extent his daughters – and any number of community issues that will need a man’s influence to keep things in better order. So obviously we must choose where to fight our battles, but get away from the shame of being out-earned by your wife in the area of salary today. A man’s worth is nowhere near as shallow as this. Having said that, get jobs in the technical fields like plumbing, electronic installation, and the like – you will have less status, but in fact get more money if you are wise and move from strength to strength in such fields.
There is much pressure from gynocentrism on males to earn more than their wives, presented as allowing a family the option for the wife to stay at home instead of work full-time. With the coming worst depression of all time on our doorstep, we must allow a family to succeed and hold to the faith with flexibility given this onslaught. In the end men’s leadership position should be attributed to how we think, what we do, and how we apply our ideas with moral courage. The measuring of what “a good husband is” must be yanked from the grips of women who change moods often, and have the cliche of high standards at the start while young – 6 feet, 6 abs, 6 figures – and often end up dealing with the bottom of the barrel later, where they nag their husbands so that they can be like the former choice they were never able to find, or have call after their one night stands. Only rich boys have such money at the start, so most are building and need to be regarded as a diamond in the rough – and so need a woman who will help him, not wait at the finish line with all the other hypergamous fools wanting a successful winner to choose them from among all the other females who think it is smart to be so crass. They falsely believe they will never get uglier with years as they have make-up and cosmetic surgery.
Every statistic shows that the vast majority of single fathers outdo single mothers, and so I see the home as a castle and went to work to make my home both good for my wife and family as a whole. To do so you must deal with the endless indirect warfare being waged on you, and hence the sapping of a castle to bring it down on your head.
Leading the Home in a DEI World
I learned how to make a home comfortable from the traditional women of my family, so that everyone would prefer to be at home and not want to escape it via spending money outside of it to get more freedom and fun. I see computer use as a false way to escape the home, whether you like this fact or not. I saw that my mother and grandmother had a style referenced in great detail in “The Dangers of Beauty” by E. Michael Jones, but to simplify it here one must make the home comfortable for women and men in a way that complements God’s created nature. Women especially, and men to a lesser extent, can come to God through beauty. Now please understand I am not the kind of man who lets women’s “need to be comfortable” dictate my swallowing my priorities to make things “nice.” If anything I am generally the opposite, as I manoeuvre politely, indirectly, and directly with females as I saw how they operated through many of my older sisters, their friends, my girlfriends, and female acquaintances. My calm directness sets some of them back, but there is no need for any tempest in a teapot here. Visitors see our home as a place my wife has decided the interior decorating, which would be a mistake. As covered in E. Michael Jones’s book, nature is what makes people comfortable and refreshed, and art is how man can improve on this by harmonising with it. So in our home there is nature in many forms that makes any woman feel at ease, and honestly makes visitors feel like the designer is my wife. I do not care if women visitors give my wife credit for the home, but do care that leadership be based on true give and take. Most men give up such areas as interior design because they want to focus on more masculine areas, and when they see a wife intrude in those more masculine areas after they have freely given up many lesser desirable ones, they get crowded out like in the Japanese game of Igo. I would suggest setting the balance by not giving up things you are less concerned with too hastily, and use them to set the balance from the beginning. You will find that your wife will be less likely to upset the agreed balance or frame if it took her time to get what she says she wants most. All this maneuvering seems time-consuming, but you will find that it saves time in the long run, as it ends emotive grabs at upsetting agreements. Women are not efficient, as they are indirect and hyper-pragmatic to a fault.
For this balance to be found, a man must not be a simp to his wife and must not hide out in the garage or a men’s den so as to escape the drama. Drama must be dealt with, and there are now many male voices talking about men having a frame and keeping it. So I will not repeat it all here, and will assume you are a man who is not simping.
Children
(The Most Important Issue in a Family, Next to the Orthodox Christian God)
The idea of “helicopter parenting” is all cope, and is part of the social engineering agenda. You cannot help your sons deal with all the attacks on them by being a part-time dad using “quality time” slogans to not be there. This is like the already-stated Sax solution – half measures, and in some ways destructive. In the past they argued boys would be toughened up dealing with things themselves, but that time has passed. They now face social engineering on a grand scale, and to abandon helping your son based on nothing but your mere desire for free time is to follow the r-selective strategy presented in Part 3 of this series. Being there for your son at competitions and awards ceremonies is not what I am after here, but being there at key points to help him do better – and even win in real terms – is what I am after. I took up the reins of running three baseball teams as a GM, so my son could play the game and not have to play another game under weak, biased leadership. As GM, my son got the added bonus of seeing his dad lead and how it is done successfully, for most boys never get to see their dad in action outside the home and so cannot really appreciate your efforts done someplace else. My son saw conflicts and observed other fathers’ and mothers’ failings. Boys when young are obviously short-sighted, and so trying to bring them into your work world to see you in action and let him have a role to learn skills and build confidence may not be the answer for all. Still, bringing your children to work to do real work and get credit at school should be a must in any educational programme, as should apprenticeship programmes. Historically boys worked with their fathers in home businesses first, and then later men were taken out of the home to work for big corporate firms. I got my son involved in the team leadership intentionally, as I lead by cooperation when I have the right kind of people for it. He was translating for me with some of the team in his mid-teens, and this would lead him to be a high-level translator as his first real career.
Most importantly, summarised here, I have good communication with my son in male terms because he has come to trust me as I give him suggestions that work in the areas he is dealing with. I also backed him up when he was under threat in the kind of world we are all dealing with. I always hear both sides of any problem, and would back him up when he was right, even if that meant I was not being emotionally loyal to my wife. This rendering of judgment after hearing both sides is a disappearing art, and means no one knows how to judge anymore – as we get to hear “don’t be judgmental” all the time now. If you have emotional trouble with “not putting your wife first,” just keep track of all the times your wife chooses to back others at her family’s expense for emotional reasons, and you will have more than enough to balance this loyalty issue. Women are often disloyal in small ways, though recently these modern generations of women are disloyal in bigger public ways.
Choosing one’s battles is a key point, as I am a military-minded man, but I realised one needs to deal with indirect war much more than direct war in this fox-or-weasel world we find ourselves in. Satan is the king of lies. You will need to deal with emotional manipulation with fortitude more than hold your own in physical fights. Those in power are trying to eliminate direct force, for a host of reasons, most of them bad.
I have abstained from getting involved in my son and wife’s petty disputes, and my wife and son know I see a clear difference between big issues and small ones. Only small issues that lead to a bigger outcome demand my involvement. The reference I use is that shooting a rocket into space needs all the small things done perfectly to make it work. What clothes and grooming you prefer is small potatoes, and I will not dress my son to my wife’s tastes. For daughters this does not hold true, and drawing the line at stopping her from following the herd in over-sexualising herself is my limit.
I have proved my trustworthiness to my son, and so he comes to me like in those old sitcoms – “father knows best.” I have my share of biting-my-tongue moments too, do not get me wrong, and all is not perfect. Regardless of that, over time a son learns the right courses on his own with smaller issues, and applies and adjusts lessons he got from you on his own from the former big ones. As he gets into his adult years his brain kicks in and he starts to form the judgment that means less calling on me overall. Do not mistake this lesser amount of later time for not being there early and often at key points to firm up the ground toward all the benefits later on.
I think it was Aristotle who said: “Anyone can be angry, but to be angry at the right time, in the right way, with the right person, to get the right result, is the height of skill.”
Applying my priorities for him is done when he comes into conflict with them on bigger issues. I let my wife nitpick about small issues if she understands I will not go to bat for them unless they have some greater importance than her need to control him like a baby, or impress her cliques of many kinds. So patience is needed, and a father always absent will have net losses in all these issues. I have missed some of my son’s social status functions that give him his rewards for his hard work, but am almost always there when there is an inglorious need to help – whether he sees it or not. Your absence at the award ceremony allows him to get the credit he deserves, separated from you, and the more glory for him alone. Our trust and effort do not need public acknowledgment, as his needs determine my time, and these advice points are determined by me and God as I have learned them – not the rotten cliches that fly around these days with supposed “common wisdom” attached to them. Wisdom these days is absent, and sure as hell is not common.
Teaching Girls
Girls and women want their feelings and desires falsely rationalised. They use emotional unhappiness to push you off the truth. They will want you accepting their lies as truth. Teach your daughter that she can spend more time with you if, and only if, she keeps her emotional behaviour under control. This gift will be priceless to her in her future dealings with males, and must be done early when it will best be taken in and thus affect her instincts and emotions and force them to adjust. When girls are spoiled they eventually take on the “fake till you make it” self-confidence found in Hollywood, that shows its skirt and hem in catering to the female world of style over substance.
Of course when the healthy occasion arrives for a show of emotion, you may then affirm it – with both girls and boys alike. But do not allow anyone to turn every tempest in a teapot into a need-to-show-you-care moment, for you are not leading anyone then. The other way is emotional blackmail, and is a black hole that will never be filled by most modern drama queens. If you let her, or her mother, or her female teachers, or her female pseudo-shrinks, and any number of self-help books, they will try to weaken your resolve, and you will have your time stolen from your sons – as boys are the opposite in not wanting you watching things, since they stubbornly want to remake the wheel too much. Female nature robs you of boys’ time through emotive drama. This self-obsession on feelings is evil in its results, though it may be instinctive on her part and not thought out or planned. Besides, you will be there for her more on the non-shallow and even occasional shallow occasions, and as stated, make it clear why being there at that time is more important for her. Please understand that in my family I am the one who hugs, kisses, and is more praising when things are done right, or when failures with great effort were given – more so than my wife. I am not the cold fish, but the patriarch.
If your daughter plays any emotional games you simply walk away and point to the golden rule of keeping her emotions under control. Do not get into lots of talk about this rule once you have made it clear, as talking about it endlessly is a win for her and a loss for you. Failure on her part to do so means no attention and help, especially with money. Her emotional ways mean she is on her own, which will lead to failures when she can still learn from them – as later it will be denial and projection onto others about her failures, since women are the worst about accountability. So while she is young and following her emotions, you are the figure who calls a spade a spade and never lets her blame others and project her failings. If she listens and is logical, you give support and counsel. Beware of acting like she is following when in fact she is not. Be eagle-eyed. When she does it right and wins, show her affection. When she follows correctly and gives a great effort and fails, also show affection. You are on her side when she thinks – she is on her own when she follows effete emotional strangers.
There is only one other main rule when dealing with a daughter: when you catch her lying to anyone close to her – you, your wife, her good brother or sister, and her close good friends – you will need to come down hard on her then. This includes gossiping behind such a person’s back to raise her status in the dysfunctional effete world. My mother said she could always count on me to keep secrets when she asked me to, and I would be careful even when not asked to pledge secrecy. You should not hold back in spanking, grounding, and cancelling anything you think is warranted for such gross misdeed, which are made out to be little things when they are great things. I would err on the harsher side, because you will often not catch her in these acts, as females are so indirect. Lying to non-Christian strangers is not the same and can carry no sanction – as if she does not need to be honest to some backstabbing woman or a playboy trying to bed her. This kind of nuance is covered in Ivan Alexandrovich Ilyin’s book “On Resistance to Evil by Force.” You will not often get a girl being like a boy in direct evil acts, and so you must pay attention to lying like a hawk. This is why children with a father in the Orthodox Christian Church will have better odds, because they see in you a force that sees morals as something that can be so much more and believable in God.
Boys Becoming Unbelievably Strong Men
With such high levels of social engineering, a boy who can make it through such an onslaught and come out the other side intact will be a new kind of man, and so to simply say “from a boy to a man” does not even come close to what you will help accomplish in getting a son ready.
The cultural attack has gone on a long time. When it comes to our culture most see the dysfunction as a relatively recent occurrence, and that would be a big mistake, as shown in many articles on this Discerner site. Please watch the critique of Disney’s movie Mary Poppins (linked in Further Reading and Watching below), which is an example of the agenda going on in 1963-64. The discrediting of men and male ideals has only gone into overdrive recently, and is old news for those paying attention and not following fashion trends.
You can really reverse these attacks by noting what they are trying to get rid of in men and boys, and then push the opposite to your boys at the very time he is experiencing it. For example, in Disney’s Mary Poppins they tried to undermine being careful with your savings, and we should be wise to the long-stated idea of “money is a coward, and flees danger.” Do not gamble with money unless you have no other choice. Be brave in other ways, not in making and holding on to your wealth. Your money defends your family, and you are the most important aspect to the health and defence of your family, bar none. When a Japanese ship sank in the past in Asian waters, the men and children were placed on the lifeboats, because the men could defend the children from all the dangers better – keeping space on the boat, pirates, stealing of the last food and water, falling or being pushed off the lifeboat into the sea, and more. Today the idea of women and children first has run aground, and women wanting the best of both worlds will carry on as long as simping white knights wish to rescue witches instead of young pure maidens and kind old ladies. You must read history to see real truths, not the many modern forms on the boob tube’s slithering screens.
Argumentum ad Authority
(Who to Listen to?)
Academics have long been known to be the most gullible, as with the Great Moon Hoax of 1835 (link below) when the average person on the street was not taken in, but a disproportionate number of academics were. Those who are good at regurgitation have a stronger tendency to not filter the “crap in, crap out” dilemma of trusting someone with status markers, who is controlled by the Deep State through financial support, prestige, credentialism, fame, and PR. Older books have less intentional lying in them, and the lies that are there are easier to see through, so you cannot go wrong with older sources on average. Still, people are into fashion, and so read supposed “best sellers,” ignoring who ranks them and why. In addition, when you find an author you like, use his preferences and references to find other intelligent and uncorrupted sources. Of course do not let emotions get the better of your discerning, and for God’s sake do not follow trends blindly.
Bravery
“Courage is the first of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees all the others.” – Aristotle
As asserted in “Honor Versus the Amazonian World (Effeminate Leadership by the Chattering Class)” by Mitchell Milo, the question of IQ and the graph of men versus women in intelligence is answered by bravery. Dumber men can hold to truth longer and more stubbornly even when threatened with violence and even under intense pain, torture, and death. Women with higher IQ over dumber men will abandon truth for mere gossip targeted at themselves, let alone more real threats to their emotions, body, mind, and soul. In fact even in the taking in of information, the very strong love of the charisma tendency of females and effete men will trump all else. This can be seen in boy toy groups of singers who do not compose their songs, nor write their own lyrics, nor choreograph their own dance steps, nor choose their own clothing, nor do their own make-up and hair styles, and who even do not choose who they have sex with. While a homely man who does all the music by himself is not listened to because his looks do not trigger the emotions. Absolutely ridiculous has our effete world become via the Kleptocracy and their leader Satan.
Women like to only make decisions directly when the situation is perfect and there are no fears or other emotional pressures, and there seldom is – for there is often a no-win situation where one cannot be popular with both sides when you must make a judgment.
Being a Slave
‘A man has as many masters as he has vices.’ – St. Augustine of Hippo
Self-discipline is not an outside-enforced discipline, and this catering to outside force is where women excel past men, as many forces outside her can control her to jump and bend over backwards to outdo others. For men it is much harder, as can be seen in the army, where full force can be applied to force males to be disciplined. Self-discipline is an inside force that has been tested over time with different kinds of dangers. Overcoming boredom to achieve a goal is a weakness many young men never conquer. All dangers are not in front of a crowd, with fame, money, and women as the reward. These battles are personal and no one even sees most of them – but God does.
Those who have studied regurgitation in schools to get their square mortarboard, hod, and limp headdress should remember that this has a clear Masonic meaning. Apprentice mason boys in the past would carry mortar up the scaffolding to the stonemasons. In order to use both hands for climbing, the mortar was carried in a “hod” – that flat board – fastened upon the head. It is fitting, as most are unaware of their blind ambition to climb the financial, legal, and educational world ladder, unknowingly working for the Masonic ladders system to give the people at the top their hard-earned work. I will leave you to surmise what the limp tassel is and why it is shifted to the left side when you graduate. Regardless of when you graduate, you are only starting at the bottom of the system, and one can learn the real rules like those who watch the movie “Eyes Wide Shut” or in an easier way by reading old books and truthful articles like you find here on The Discerner.
Yet if you wish to simp to your wife, that is your choice, but you should be aware of this old chestnut: ‘Men want their wives to stay the same after marriage, while women want to change their husbands after marriage.’
Forewarned is forearmed.